Pet grief requires comforting someone who has just lost a beloved fur-baby with sensitivity, empathy, and understanding. Here are some thoughtful ways to provide support:
Express Sympathy
Acknowledge your friend’s loss and don’t be afraid to use the pet’s name and show them that you can see how special their companion was. You can even share your own memories of the pet and how much joy they brought.
Offer Practical Help
If the pet owner is getting a Return of Ashes you could offer to be there with them when they open the scatter box. Or if there are other pets in the family you could offer to take the dogs for a walk, giving them time to grieve.
Listen and Validate
Allow them to talk about their feelings and memories without interrupting. Simply being a compassionate listener can be very comforting. A good response would be along the lines of “It’s completely natural to feel this way. [Pet’s name] was a beloved member of your family.”
Respect Their Grieving Process
Allow them to grieve in their way and time. Everyone processes loss differently. Avoid phrases like “It was just a pet” or “You can get another one.” These can be hurtful and dismissive.
Create a Memorial
Consider giving them a small token of remembrance, such as a framed photo of their pet or a memorial stone. Legacy now offer beautiful condolence boxes that hold a candle, essential oil and a small plant, that can be delivered to their home with a personalised card.
Check In Regularly
Continue to check in on them in the days and weeks following the loss. Grief doesn’t have a set timeline. Be Patient and understand that their grieving process might take longer than expected. Keep offering support and understanding. They are lucky to have you in their lives.